Okay, let's see if I can focus on writing a coherent post.
Where to begin.... hmmm....
Well, I will just say it.
I quit my job. I handed in my notice today.
I don't think I can express how excited or nervous or anything that I am.
This is a huge leap for me. For us. My little family.
I have had this rope tugging me for awhile now. One end on my heart and the other firmly anchored at home... with the baby and the Mr.
I never fancied myself a SAHM. But, when that little surprised face looked up at me nearly 3 years ago, everything changed. I knew it. This is where I was meant to be.
But, I went back to work. Because we needed my income. We still do.
Everyone assured me it would get easier to leave my boy.
I have been extremely blessed to have a work at home husband (WAHH)
So, I have never had to leave baby hughes with strangers at a young age (not that there is anything wrong with that.)
And, I will be the first to admit, that while my husband is great... husband and father, I have been insanely jealous of him. I hate missing anything. I have always be acutely aware that I only get so much of the kid time before this hyena grows up. And, even though my hours at work are wonderful, I just hated knowing I was missing anything. Like little firsts and big firsts. I am still not convinced that I saw his first steps... just things like that.
So, after Mr. Hughes crunched and crunched some numbers, he told me that we could do it. We just can't spend any money for the next 16 years. I kid. But it will be tight. And so worth it. Have I mentioned that my hubs is self-employed? And even though he has been for 10 years, my income just made me feel safe. And I am scared. I know that I can go out and get another job, but now that I have this nugget of goodness in my grasp, I just don't want to give it up.
I have prayed and prayed about this. Mainly because I feel a little bit guilty. My job and income have been such a blessing. I have been with this orthodontic practice for 6 years. I work with some really great people... ones that I really hope to stay in touch with. I don't think I could have a more flexible, wonderful boss or better hours. And in this economy, people are losing their jobs right and left. And here I am throwing a wonderful job away, even if my intentions are 100% noble.
But they aren't.
I would be lying if I didn't also have selfish reasons for doing this. While I will be mainly focused on baby hughes and doing all the magical mommy things like potty training and cleaning toilets and remounting curtain rods that have been ripped out of the wall (no joke) I am aware that I will have more time for Vintage Junky. And that I can help contribute money to our budget in doing something I adore. I have felt so overwhelmed at times... like I just want to give up the business all together since I couldn't throw everything at it. So, I am hoping that naptimes will allow me to work on my business a bit more.
I am also hoping that Mr. Hughes won't have to keep such crazy hours... let's face it. I have a wild kid that makes a bit of noise.... okay.. a LOT of noise. I am also hoping for a cleaner house. That is a lot of hoping, isn't it?
I couldn't do all this without the amazing support from my friends and my family and coworkers. I am like a sponge and feared telling anyone our tentative plans in case they had something negative to say... something I didn't want to hear. I didn't want to second guess our decision or even hear a what if. I only wanted to soak up the woohoos! and Awesomes!
So to sum up this very wordy post:
I Quit. Scared. Excited. Happy.
and isn't Happy the most important?
bye for now!
oh, and I purchased the sweet print here to celebrate our new path.
Good for you Michelle! Congrats on this new stage in your life!ReplyDelete
i am so happy for you! you will be living my life, which is a dream. ;) really though, i knew iw anted to stay home, and we made it work but when we moved to maryland where it was more expensive, we really needed more income and i started the furniture business, though i am still an at home mom, taking advantage of all free time by working. and it has been so worth it to be able to be there when my kids need me, be able to attend school events, mother's day specials at my daughter's preschool. there will be time when the kids are older for us to focus on making more money and a more comfortable life, but there will never be another time like this, when they are so young and innocent and so full of life. congrats, michelle!ReplyDelete
so happy for your friend!!!!
Yea for you! Happy IS the right word to concentrate on...and this is not a selfish decision. It might be hard, but it will be worth it. I'm glad for you that you get this opportunity ~ have fun!!!!!ReplyDelete
yippee skippy!!!!! So happy for you and your family on this new path! It's going to be so rewarding and i just know it will all work out! wishing you many blessings,ReplyDelete
Congrats! You are in the exact position I hope to be in soon (except I don't have children yet). It was almost scary reading every detail in how similar it relates to where I hope to be and what to focus on :)ReplyDelete
WOW!!! Huge news Michelle! Congratulations on taking such a big step, best of luck to you and the family. I know Vintage Junky will become a huge success and it won't even feel like work because you're doing what you love and what you're so good at it.ReplyDelete
Happy is most definitely the most important!ReplyDelete
Michelle this is such great news! I'm so happy that you finally took the leap. I think you have made the right decision for all the right reasons. Money is just money, but time with your son is priceless. I hope to be in your shoes in the near future and I so look forward to how things progress with Vintage Junky in light of this awesome step you're taking. Congrats!ReplyDelete
Congratulations! What a big step, and one that I am sure will be so worth it! I don't judge any mother who has to work, but my mom (mother of 8) never worked while we were all at home and I am SO grateful for that! Now as an adult, and about to have my own child, I realize how much her and my dad must have sacrificed to be able to do that. But they made it work and it was such a blessing to us! Good luck :)ReplyDelete
Yeah for you and your family.It's a big and scary step.I remember doing it myself and hyperventilating in the grocery store as I suddenly found it necessary to comparison shop and actually plan stuff out.No, really I did hyperventilate!Eight years later a lot has changed and while it wasn't easy it has been worth it.The myth is about having it all.Unattainable. But what we can do is find the best for ourselves and our family.However that path needs to be shaped does not matter.At the end of the night kiss your little one and be secure in the thought that you are finding the best way possible for your family.It will fall into place!Enjoy the ride.ReplyDelete
i am positive that this is a decision that you will NEVER regret. 100% positive. congrats.ReplyDelete
I'm very happy for you...and your family. You did the right thing. You'll be glad you did it...always!ReplyDelete
CONGRATS MICHELLE!!!!!!!!!! When we set out to start our family- I never thought i'd be a sahm either. Isn't it funny how one look at them changes everything??! I was lucky enough to be with them for almost 12 years but because of the economy, I had to go to work 7 months ago. It is KILLING me. Even with an almost 13 year old and a 10 year old I still feel like this is where I should be. We are currently crunching numbers and considering selling everything but the kitchen sink to get me back home. So, I know it's scary but it IS so worth it. I don't know you and yet I'm very happy for you. Enjoy.ReplyDelete
Yay Michelle...I'm so happy and excited for you!! I've always wanted to be a SAHM and the hubs and I had always planned for me to be, but we weren't sure how and when God would work it out with the whole finances thing. But, when I was pregnant with our oldest, Emma, I was dealing with a difficult situation at work and loads of stress. That was not good for me or the baby. The hubs and I prayed about it and things at work only got worse. We felt that God was saying just to do it...take a leap of faith. So one day the hubs told me that I just needed to go in and give my notice. I took a huge leap of faith and did it and it has been the best decision that we could have ever made for our family. Yes, money is tight...and yes, we have to sacrifice some things that we would "like" to have, but it's all worth it! Congrats, friend! :)ReplyDelete
i happy that you are doing what feels right. ive been a stay at home mom for 23 years. they are now 23, 20 and 14. of course its also a benefit for hubby. obviously you need the support of spouse who agrees with the decision. thankfully i always have. its been tight girl, its been a sacrifice. but it has been so worth it! hard at times. you dont have your own life most of the time. but worth it. worth giving up competing with the jonses (so to speak)and im young enough to recreate myself when the time is right. for me its soon, i can see the light. lolReplyDelete
anyway, good for you. good for baby h.
I think you will be surprised how the money thing will work itself out...I know that sounds silly. When I look back at how much we lived on five years ago when I quit work I'm amazed. Congratulations! I'm so happy for you and your sweet little family.ReplyDelete
Yay Michelle!! I'm so happy for you and your family! And I'm a little jealous. :) I wish I could pull the trigger on doing this. Maybe soon. Maybe not. We'll see what baby# 2 brings to the mix.ReplyDelete
Can't wait to hear about this new adventure of yours! Congrats!!!
Good luck! I hope that everything works out perfectly and you continue to get awesome support!ReplyDelete
Happy for you, Michelle! I never fancied myself an SAHM (for all the reasons you mentioned) but making financial sacrifices to stay home with my twins has been the best decisions I've ever made. You won't regret it and baby hughes will be better for it. I worked until my first son was 5 and I missed that boy terribly every single day. Best of luck with this new chapter in your life!ReplyDelete
Congratulations on taking this leap of Faith! Read Matthew 21:22 "You will receive all that you pray for, provided you have faith." You will look back on this time of your life and realize that the "things" you sacrificed and went without will pale in comparison to the memories of spending this time in your child's life...but don't lose the ability to accept that this is the right choice for you, and not the ideal for all parents. I, too, stayed at home for many years, but had to work for 8 months after our daughter's birth until my husband found work again...many a SAHM made hurtful remarks about how they would NEVER leave their child just to make money! I finally asked one woman, "Even if that was the only way to put food on the table?" Remember, we are ALL working moms, regardless of our employment status and reasons for it. Cherish this gift you are able to give your family...your time together!ReplyDelete
I'm so happy for you. What a gift for you, your husband, your baby that you are able to do this. Wonderful.ReplyDelete
Congrats on your decision, you will never regret it, they grow up so quickly!ReplyDelete
Good for you!ReplyDelete
Hope all your plans come to fruition and all your dreams come true!
I commend you, you have done what many of us only wish we could do. I write from my desk at work, I also missed out on many of the first moments of my youngest daughter (that her dad got to see) and it about killed me, still feel guilty about it. Good luck to you, I truly hope things work out great! Hugs!ReplyDelete
Blessings to you! I was a stay at home mom----- when dinosaurs roamed the earth. Then it seemed that this "fell out of favor". Now, all of the moms I know choose this path. It is the hardest thing you'll ever do. The most rewarding thing to do. The thing that causes you to question yourself more than just about anything. I send you love and light--- peace and happiness! Go forth and roar, you will be wonderful!!!!ReplyDelete
Good for you! Good luck, I know you can make it work- it's all about priorities. I'm a SAHM, and I make it work by cutting out some things that just don't seem as important anymore (Read: new clothes. I keep my clothes as new-looking as I can, and keep them for ever. ;) Instead of trendy, I buy something I might wear for a few years. It doesn't really matter- we don't really 'go out' anymore, either!)ReplyDelete
If this is what you really want, these little sacrifices won't be be missed for long.
Best of luck to you. It will be the best decision you ever made!ReplyDelete
Congratulations! You were wise not to tell people - naysayers may have changed your mind (or made you feel guilty). You are definitely doing the right thing. Your child is the biggest priority. They grow up so very fast and you don't get a chance to "do over". Good for you! Scary yes, but it will be all right.ReplyDelete
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Hi Michelle, Congrats on this decision. I stayed home for 4 years and hated going back to work but financially had to. My daughter who was 4 always wanted me to be at home. When my job was eliminated at the phone company my daughter was a sophomore in college out of state and it meant that I could now go visit her fairly often and even when she came home I was able to spend more time with her which she loved. We're extremely close and she has chosen to stay home with her six month old baby and is thrilled being at home with him. It's a great thing and I know you can do it. Blessings to you and your family!ReplyDelete
Congrats to you on this new chapter in your family's life - how exciting!! Wishing you all the best.ReplyDelete
Congratulations! You're going to loooove being a stay-at-home mama. I quit my job after my daughter was born and the first year was tight financially. But after that things seemed to get easier and we're in a nice spot now, even with a second little one in the family. A few things that we cut back on to help make it easier: eating out, cable TV (I don't miss it at all!), avoided upgrading our phones to data plans, and we just don't spend money on much these days. But our family life is incredibly rich and we are not lacking for anything. Much love and blessings to you and your family.ReplyDelete
Michelle - Good for you!!! Things will be just fine, you will see! I am so happy for you and your family. :DReplyDelete
Michelle I'm very happy for you. I quit my job last year when I had our 5th child. I started blogging n have been able to focus on our home,our children,and launching my business online. I pray that you are able to continue this journey and enjoy all the joy it will bring.ReplyDelete
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Congrats! I so envy you. How to you did you deal with missing firsts? Just today my sister (who wathces my twins) called to tell me one twin laughed for the first time - and I missed it! I fear working will never get easier.ReplyDelete
I am so, so happy for you! Home is truly a fabulous workplace, unlike any other. Just be sure to set up some routine in your day as if home is your "career", and things will be great ;)ReplyDelete
As it should be! You will all be happier and thrive.ReplyDelete
Good for you!!! Merry Christmas...AgnesReplyDelete